How Will Divorce Affect My Children?

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How will divorce affect my children? If you are going through a divorce with children, it is very important to remember that they are a part of the process. It is important to value the needs of your child above your own needs. At Tolin & Tolin, PLLC, we believe it is important to remember that although you may be upset with your spouse and dislike some of the things he or she is doing, your spouse is still your child’s other parent. However, remembering this is often a very difficult thing to do during the divorce process, which can last a significant amount of time. It is important to remember that you have rights as a parent for access to your children, including visitation or custody, and access to your children’s medical and school records. Getting a divorce does not eliminate the rights you have as a parent; however, it does not limit the rights of the other parent either.

It is best for the children when their parents agree to a solution that will allow both parents to have time with their children. However, if the parents cannot agree on a solution as often happens, the North Carolina courts must consider what is in the best interests of the children in making decisions about their custody. The parents’ going through a divorce should not require the children to have to go through more difficult changes than necessary. It is often best for the parties to agree to resolve their custody disputes; however, if they cannot agree a judge will make the decision for them.

Contact a Divorce Attorney from Our Firm

We invite you to contact us now for more information, because the earlier we are able to get involved in the case, the more we can help. There is nothing more important to our clients than their children and their children’s well-being. In presenting your case we will focus on the protection of parental rights under state law, your wishes for your children, and showing the judge what is in the best interest of your children. When presenting your case to the judge, we will show evidence of where it will be best for your children to spend their time, where it is best for your children to live, and how it will be best for your children to divide their time between their parents. We listen to all of your concerns, and we determine how to best move forward to pursue the outcome that you desire. We also advise you how the court generally views child custody cases. We know how to manage these issues with your children and their futures as our primary focus. We are here to assist you throughout the process.